I’ve known my girlfriend, Kara, for about six months now, and over that period of time, I have gotten to know her pretty well. I have also learned a lot about her personal story, and how events in her life have played a role in her personality and how she views certain aspects of life. Kara is kind, caring, quiet, can be very funny, but also very serious. While these are only just a few of her many traits as herself, and as a human being, I will mainly be focusing on these for the sake of this project.
Kara has always been relatively shy. She wasn’t one of those children that could just go up to someone and start talking to them. She was the child that usually hid behind her parent’s leg, you could say. I understand this, as I was the same way. Throughout her older years, going through school, and many other social situations, she learned to be around new people, but still finds it hard most of the time to just be automatically interactive with people of whom she has never had any affiliation with before. That being said, sometimes she can be quite social if she feels the atmosphere given off by the new people she is with is a good one, a safe one. Again, I can attest to this for myself, so I know it is a plausible thought process. And, since I am familiar with that thought process, I can safely assume that she is an introvert. Not only does it take her awhile to adapt to meeting new people, being around people for a long time (people she is familiar with or not), can exhaust her. After spending a long time with others, she needs to spend some time alone or with one other person in order to recharge. 
I have met Kara’s parents and have gotten to know them well enough to see that they brought her up to be a very kind and thoughtful young lady towards others. Being brought up in church has also played a huge role in her life when it comes to being caring, and putting others’ needs before hers. She is always ready to listen to other people, and I know she has been this way for a long time. There were many times in school that people would come to her, asking for advice. While she sometimes feels like she struggles with the right words to describe her thoughts and ideas, she is usually able to show what she feels for others in her actions, and that’s what matters the most. Because she cares so much about the feelings of others, it becomes one of the most important things to her when making decisions that can affect other people. So, I can safely say that feelings are one of Kara’s most valued values. However, Kara will not sacrifice the truth and fact for someone’s feelings, which is good.
She will never admit it, but Kara is a very humorous person. Like most human beings, she finds joy in laughter. She’s always liked to watch funny movies and shows, whether it’s Hannah Montana from when she was younger, or The Office, which she still watches today… a lot. Another big thing that has impacted her in this aspect is social media. With the appearance of Vine and YouTube, Kara has found many funny videos to quote, reference, and reenact throughout… well, everyday. It’s being able to lightheartedly participate in funny things like this that Kara is able to socially connect to a lot of people, even if she doesn’t realize it. I’ve seen her laughing with many people that have seen some of the same funny videos she has, even if she doesn’t know them very well. This is yet another thing that contributes to her being able to connect with others, even if on a small level. Those first small levels of connection are so very important when starting a relationship with someone, no matter what kind it is.
Despite being very funny, Kara is very mature, being able to make good decisions about important tasks, such as assignments, or dealing with a situation that’s going on in her life. I constantly see her writing things in her planner, or just talking out her schedule to herself about what she needs to get done throughout the day. She is very easily able to remember things that are happening throughout the week and day (this something that Kara and I differ on, haha), and adjusting plans in order to appropriately fit with the events that are to come. She is a very big planner.
Taking all of these factors into account, and as I got to know her, I felt like she fit the personality of someone that is very warm and loving, mature and able to make important decisions, and very people-oriented, since her relationships with others she takes very seriously. I like to think of what her personality type would be in the Myers-Briggs test, and I know it would be pretty similar to mine, of not the same. I thought about this for a little while, actually, and felt that she was an INFJ or ENFJ. I was pretty sure she was more introverted than extroverted at the time, but wasn’t a hundred percent sure. I felt that she was similar enough to me that it was one of those two. I later had her take the test, and she took it more than once. She got ISFJ. I was pretty close. The more I thought about it, the more it made sense. Maybe her being able to recognize little things wasn’t a big as it was being able to recognize physical aspects of things in general. Overall, it was very interesting figuring out just who Kara was, and still is. I’m still learning more about her everyday.
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